Real Housewives of Orange County: Tamra’s Husband Files For Divorce and Explains Why
The husband of The Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney has filed for divorce, alleging she cheated on him and is verbally abusive, court documents filed Thursday reveal.
If you saw last night’s episode - this should not come as a shock to anyone. According to People.com, Simon Barney alleges in his filing that Tamra “has been verbally abusive and has committed acts of disloyalty and adultery.”
However, in a message on her Facebook page, Tamra says, “Thank you to everyone who understands and supports me. For the record, all accusations are false.”
Is Tamra talking about the accusations of her cheating??
Simon took to his blog on Bravo to explain his actions:
The dinner with Tamra’s mom … HOW UGLY! Can I ever get a break this season considering I didn’t want to be on it this year? I really never knew my wife felt this way about me until I watched this episode. I guess I’m not the right man for her. Click here to read what Tamra had to say to Simon.This did remind me of a conversation on the first day of 2009 (January 1, 2009). Tamra and I were in Las Vegas the day after New Year’s Eve. She told me she knew she could get someone better looking, with more money, and who would let her do whatever she wants, regardless. But she was going to stay together for the kids. I was shocked, and I’m shocked now watching her at dinner with her mother, when she says, “If it wasn’t for the kids, I would leave him.”
Ouch! That really hurt! If this is true, she should have this conversation with me in private. I’m not sure any couple should stay together because of kids. It only does more damage to them. I guess I was under the impression that she was still in love with me as I am was with her. And sadly I had to find this out is no longer true on national TV. I guess she wanted to have the drama spotlight, rather than what’s best for our family and me. Have we really drifted that far apart in just a few years?
You don’t need to run me over with a truck to get your message across, honey! Of course it feels like a truck just ran over my heart and soul. Wow! What a fool I’ve been. Never thought to watch out within my own camp. “Et tu, Brute?”
Like I always say, “If it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.” But I think this one is going to hurt like I was being killed.
Sorry kids, I would give up my life and conquer the world for you. Just couldn’t triumph over celebrity and fame. Daddy loves you very much…
To see the whole blog go to Bravo.com
The couple, married for almost 12 years, have two daughters, ages 11 and 4, and one son, 9.
Simon is seeking joint custody of the children and is asking the court to deny his soon-to-be-ex-wife any spousal support.
A rep for Bravo, which airs The Real Housewives of Orange County, had no comment.
I find it shocking that Simon would say that Tamra is verbally abusive. Simon is controlling and verbally abusive. He is also smothering and if he did in fact file for divorce – Tamra should be thrilled to pieces. What are your thoughts??
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January 9th, 2010 at 6:01 am
Simon did the right thing..if the episodes are edited, one would need dmage control for make certain that his family is protected.
He finally “had enough”, putting up with the son’s’complete deterioration, the extensive materialism, leaving his long time successful job, observing his “wife” while she destroyed Gretchen time and again, finally her snide comments about the girls turning her remarks towards her husband..ENOUGH, lighten up on the control, go back to Fletcher, be a good DAd, and BREATHE..move out of OC..Long Beach? Run, do not look back get out of that hornet’s’nest..good luck..hang eith Don, he “get’s’it”
January 11th, 2010 at 10:26 pm
Tamra should read the book, The Verbally Abusive
Relationship, by Patricia Evans. Simon is a classic
case and the book will explain to her why she will never
live up to what he says he wants from her. She is doing
the right thing and will recognize herself in so many
of the books stories…
January 12th, 2010 at 2:41 am
Tamra is no innocent. She appears to be lost and not fully self-realized. She is
capable, intelligent and hasn’t tested her wings as an adult woman. Consequently,
she lashes out, is willing to criticize others to boost her own self-esteem and
is judgmental. Simon doesn’t help the matter. He blames others instead of
realizing that he is a control freak and appears paranoid. He has little tolerance
of differences because he is threatened by the strength of others. It’s a bad combo.
Tamra should get a part-time job, feel comfortable in her own skin and stand up
to Simon if he keeps criticizing her. If she doesn’t, her sense of who she is will keep
getting smaller. All she will worry about is Simon’s reactions and his ideas about who
she should be. She will always have to second guess him and that will be impossible.
Simon needs to reward Tamra for good things done instead of constantly criticizing her
mother and her friends. They would be better off leaving such a competitive, materialistic
environment and moving into a middle class neighborhood where both spouses have to
hold their own. They need to decide what kind of lifestyle would make them
happy and get a support system for it.
I’m shocked that so little focus is on their son. Who accepts their kid going to jail? While
sipping a drink, no less! i would be freaking out and trying to find psychological help for him.
What role has the father played in relation to the son? What is their relationship like? It
seems like he is just standing back and watching instead of acting like a role model and
a guide.
Tamra should beware. People who are fearful of something often act like Simon until
the cause is discovered. Abusers are compulsives who need much help to begin to
stop their behavior. They often isolate and alienate their victims, often wives, from family
and friends. Ann made a good suggestion.
March 8th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I think we are only seeing one side of this story….has anyone wondered why Tamara’s son is so messed up? I have heard that she was AWOL as a Mom and spent more time looking for a husband-and as I recall-Simon and Tamra hooked up at a club-she was out trolling. I feel for Simon and believe that the editing showed him in a bad light-but come on-Tamra is a selfish person-her children will be dropped off at the grandparents while she looks for her next sugardaddy….Simon-I think you dodged a bullet. I think you should fight for full custody AND spousal support-you have earned it.